Childhood Sexual Abuse and Later Adult Relationships
Being a survivor of sexual abuse takes a lot of strength and courage. Sex and sexuality is a wonderful thing, but it is often twisted and marred by early abuse experiences.
Many survivors find safe, loving people who they trust to enter into long-term adult relationships with. Unfortunately, the old, unhealed hurts can start to sneak into daily relationships and impact the emotional and physical intimacy of the relationship. What are some signs:
- Avoiding talking to your partner about painful topics.
- Physical intimacy bringing up reminders of past events.
- A sense of danger or unease during times of intimacy that seems "wrong" in the current conversation.
- Avoidance of physical intimacy or relations all together- or limited to a few times a year out of obligation.
There is hope! Here are a few strategies that can have a positive impact on your relationship:
- Have hope! Know that things can improve, you aren't relegated to having an "ok" relationship.
- It's Normal! Often both parties feel like they are "crazy" and struggle with how to respond to what is happening. You are normal! This is a tricky situation.
- Be Informed! There is a ton of great information out there to help both of you understand, heal, and transform the old patterns into something fantastic.
I was reminded of this when I got word that a colleague over by the ocean is having an all day couple's seminar about this exact topic. I thought it might be a wonderful weekend getaway for some couples who follow my blog. Here are the details:
Living with a Survivor
An All Day Workshop for Couples
Dates and Times:
Saturday, August 27, 2011
9 a.m. to 5 p.m.
Stephen L. Braveman, LMFT, DST
Carmen Martin, MA, MFTI
Stephen Braveman's Office
$125.00 per couple
Call Stephen at (831) 375-7553 to register. Space is limited so please register early!
In this group couples will find a safe, nurturing place to examine the
unique challenges they face due to sexual abuse survivor issues. Partners
will learn how to take care of themselves while supporting the growth of
their partner. Together couples will find ways to leave pains behind and
embrace the safety of a healthy, loving energetic and romantic relationship.